Arizona Sexual Assault Network
501 (C) 3 nonprofit operating in partnership with the U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Violence Against Women.
1611 E. Warner Rd. Suite 4 Tempe, AZ 85284
Phone: 480-831-1986 Fax: 480-755-6030
· Guilt
“If I would have only…this would have never happened.”
There is nothing a person could have done to avoid what has already happened. A victim of sexual assault is not responsible. The offender is always at fault. Nothing the victim did was ‘asking for it’. Only in ignorance would a family or community condemn a victim of sexual assault. In treatment the victim becomes a survivor by learning to affirm, not condemn.
· Embarrassment or Shame
“I feel so dirty, are people going to know I was raped?”
Educate yourself on the myths of rape, these feelings come from misinterpretations about the facts of rape. Remember it is never under no circumstances your fault someone did this.
· Loss of confidence
“I can’t do anything anymore.”
We can not always be protected no matter how hard we try. An assault can make a person feel intense feelings of vulnerability emotionally and mentally which affect levels of confidence.
· Mood changes
“Am I going crazy?!?!?”
Having emotions change abruptly is a normal response to trauma. As treatment progresses emotions will be become more stable.
· Depression
“I’m so tired of living, there is no more hope”
Depression may take many forms, inertia, fear, anxiety or self hatred, numbness, loss of appetite, disturbed sleep or include other physical indications of stress. After an assault many people feel that the whole world has changed and all the things that once mattered to them have no more meaning. Seeking counseling will help elevate these feelings.